Why is Self-Love Important? you might ask. For many of us, self-love may seem like an extravagance rather than a necessity — or a new-age trend for those who have too much time in their hands.
Ironically, self-care and compassion may be required mostly by those who continually try to defeat themselves and handle the molded thoughts and illusion of perfection.
Most of the times, when we’re being excessively hard on ourselves, we do it because we’re driven by a desire to excel and an urge to do everything right, that too constantly. This desire coerces a lot of self-criticism and an accompaniment of a deceitful inner voice that makes us want to re-fashion our acts towards perfectionism.
So firstly, we must quell a few myths about loving ourselves:
Self-love doesn’t ask us to have an affair with the process of being arrogant or egotistical. It is not the process of comparing ourselves with others to decide whether we are good enough or not.
Self-love isn’t always about putting ourselves first, that too, on account of making others feel inferior.
Self-love isn’t about constantly getting a direction towards success.
Will the Real Self Love Please Stand Up?
To love oneself, we need to be in awe of the miracle of our existence. Self-Love asks us to accept ourselves as the way we are – appreciating our ‘dazzling’ features as well as the ‘dark’ characteristics, our ‘good’ distinctiveness as well as the ‘bad’ peculiarities – while knowing that the real us is above the perceived dualities of any physical and mental fringes.
It is to be willing to receive as much love and respect, as we are willing to give, and do both equally. Self-Love is about knowing our value and our boundaries, and honoring and donning them beautifully.
It is about teaching others how to treat us by showing them how we treat ourselves. Self-Love is about being kind to ourselves. It is about looking after our mind, our body and our spirit; all three. It is acknowledging what we are worthy of, not because of what we have achieved or what we look like or what others think of us, but because self-love is our birthright, no matter what.
Why is Self Love Important?
We simply can’t deal with others until we take care of ourselves first.
When we genuinely, unconditionally love ourselves, we develop the ability to progress towards betterment with a more profound solicitude for others. We endure a much greater feeling of bliss and joy reserved in the act of giving.
Self-love acts as a fuel. It acts as a strong foundation. If it’s not there, our whole life can be unstable and uncertain. But when we love ourselves, life proceeds effortlessly and everything mysteriously becomes alright.
We earn a better and striking resilience to withstand any challenging life event or personal misfortune. Depression, anxiety, stress, and the obsession with materialism departs in the face of positivity that self-love creates.
One will always know that this moment will eventually pass and thus state the following to themselves,
“You will be alright because you will treat yourself fairly regardless of any situation”.